It can be both heartbreaking and frustrating to watch a loved one struggle with addiction. You can see how it is affecting them and those around them, and you want so badly for them to see it too. You may have tried bringing it up without much luck, or they may have gotten defensive or denied that they have a problem. This can be frustrating when you know they need help but aren’t sure how to go about getting it for them.
The reality of the situation is that you can’t force someone to change. They must be willing to change on their own. This is not to say that when they enter rehab it is entirely because they realize they have a problem. Some people enter a luxury rehab program because they care so much about their family and want to do right by them. They see how much concern their family has and are willing to give rehab a try. Once there, their perspective may change and they can see how much they are benefiting from getting help and recognize that they do have a problem with drugs or alcohol.
So while you can’t make decisions for them, there are some ways that you can encourage a loved one to enter into a luxury drug and alcohol treatment program.
Educate yourself. You’ve probably heard this time and again, but it holds true. Until you have a better understanding of how drugs and alcohol are affecting your loved one, it’s difficult to understand why getting them into treatment can be challenging. Read up on how addiction affects the brain and body. Familiarize yourself with what addiction recovery entails. The more you know about the process, the more supportive you can be. While you might not understand firsthand what they are going through, you can give yourself a better idea about it.
Have a plan. Don’t just bombard your loved one with a heavy conversation about why they need to get help. This is sure to make them become more defensive and feel as though they are being attacked. You also don’t want to put yourself in a situation where you are unsure of how to respond. When you talk to your loved one about addiction rehab, you want to be as prepared as possible so the conversation is as effective as possible.
Keep in mind that entering an executive treatment program can be scary. Your loved one is unsure about what to expect, how their life will change, and whether they’re ready and able to handle these changes. Educating yourself and having a plan can help you to better answer their questions and provide reassurance.
Talk to a professional. Addiction is not something to take lightly. Employing the help of an addiction or intervention specialist can be an effective way of encouraging your loved one to get treatment. A professional will work with you to not only identify the signs and issues, but also help you to set up an intervention. This will involve some close family and friends all sitting down with your loved one to talk about their addiction and why you feel they need help. It is carefully structured and guided to promote the best outcome and reduce risk of making things worse.
Be supportive. Let your loved one know that you want them to get help because you care about them so much and are worried about their wellbeing. Use “I” statements instead of “you” statements. Rather than telling them “you need to stop drinking,” say something like, “I get worried when you don’t come home at night or pass out after drinking. I’m scared that you won’t wake up.” You don’t need to place blame, but rather show compassion and concern.
Let them know that you’re ready and willing to stand by their side and support them throughout their treatment and recovery. They may be worried about leaving home for an inpatient rehab program, but reassure them that you will have help in their absence and it’s the best thing for them and your family. Make prior arrangements as much as possible so they have less to worry about and can focus on their recovery. You can also research drug rehab facilities together and decide what program might be best for them.
Don’t blame yourself. Remind yourself that their addiction is not your fault. You didn’t cause it and you can’t change it. All you can do is be supportive of their recovery and do what’s best for you as well. Don’t be afraid to go to support groups for family members who have a loved one in addiction recovery, or to get yourself counseling or therapy. Addiction doesn’t just affect the person misusing drugs or alcohol – it affects everyone around them as well. And recovery means that everyone must be willing to make changes. If your loved one refuses to accept help and enter treatment, you might have to make some difficult choices. Be prepared to do so, but know you’re not alone.
Addiction recovery takes time and hard work. It is not something that happens overnight. If you’re ready to get your loved one the help they need, contact Chapters Capistrano to learn more about our luxury rehab program. We provide customized treatment tailored to your loved one’s individual needs and work with them along each step of the way from detox through relapse prevention planning. Call 949-371-4198 for more information and to help your loved one start a new chapter in their life.